Who Is Who in My Love Reading?

I thought it might be helpful to take another look at my thought process for evaluating the court cards in a cartomancy reading. I have already posted several articles on how to read the face cards when they don’t represent people, but what about when they do?

Almost every question is influenced by one or more people other than the querent. In fact, I find that nine times out of ten the appearance of a face card in a reading will represent a specific person who is somehow involved in the situation.

I did not always interpret the interactions of the people in a reading based on the directions of the court cards in the spread. But over the last 10 years, I have found this practice to be strikingly accurate in determining the subtle dynamics of the players in any given situation.

The following relationship reading provides a nice example of how multiple face cards that represent real people can be highly revealing in a card spread.

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Jack of Spades, 7 of Spades, King of Hearts, Jack of Diamonds, 3 of Spades.

The querent is a 24 year old woman who is in a long-term relationship. She is worried because her man has begun to act distant and casual. She asks if he has lost interest in her.

I immediately register the three black cards which suggest that the answer is “probably no.” The specific card meanings should tell me why. Then I note that three of the five cards in the spread are face cards. In order to understand the specific message in the cards, I need to determine who is who in the reading.

My eye is drawn at once to the King of Hearts situated in the important center position of the spread. He is a man who is loved. I instantly identify him as the querent’s boyfriend because he is the primary focus of the inquiry.

So who are represented by the two Jacks? How do two young men play into this picture? Like the Pages in Tarot, the mustachioed Jacks are gender fluid. They can sometimes represent young females (particularly when they are powerless in a situation), and in the context of this reading it makes more sense that they do.

This idea immediate suggests to me that one of them is likely the querent. But which? And more importantly who is the second woman? The 3 of Spades suggests deceit and a possible love triangle… best try to get clarification from the querent.

“I see another woman around your guy, ” I say.
The querent responds, “Oh, yeah. That’s probably his wife.”

Ah huh! I neglect to mention how this piece of information might have been helpful to know up front. Anyway, now the cards begin to make sense to me.

The Jack of Spades is often a rival in love readings, but who plays the rival? The wife is a rival for the affections of the querent’s lover, but the querent is also rival to the wife’s marriage.

Let’s take a look at the other jack, the Jack of Diamonds. The suit suggests a financial influence– someone who is tied financially to the King of Hearts. The 3 of Spades reveals deception around her. My impression is that the Jack of Diamonds represents the wife.

As I already mentioned, the focus of the reading is the man’s interests, so it also makes perfect sense to me that he would see the querent as a rival to re-establishing a connection with his wife (the wife falls directly next to him in his future).

Now that we have determined who is who in the reading, it is easy to see the dynamics of the situation. The 7 of Spades falling between the querent and her man shows a reversal in their relationship. The cards confirm the querent’s sense that the romance is cooling down.

The 7 of Spades is also the Card of addiction and dependence. This card falls between the querent and her man indicating an unhealthy codependent relationship between them. Notice the direction that the King faces. Despite trying to re-establish a connection with his wife, he is looking back toward the querent and his codependent connection with her. She stares longingly back at him.

So what to tell the querent? I prefer to give the unfavorable news first because once the querent hears what she hopes to hear, she is unlikely to register anything else I say.

I warn the querent that the relationship with this man is unhealthy– never mind the fact that he’s married! She admits that they are bound together by a sexual addiction from which neither can break free.

I suggest that she seek counseling to help her detach from this difficult situation. I also recommend the outstanding books by Melody Beattie that deal with breaking the bonds of codependency.

Now to answer the specific question… I advise the querent that the cards confirm this man is attempting to pull away in order to salvage his marriage which is in deep trouble. The 3 of Spades shows problems and deceptions in the future.

The wife looks away from the 3 of Spades. Her focus is on the man. She is either ignorant of the deceptions, or she chooses to ignore the marital problems.

Whatever the case, the man is motivated by financial concerns, and the wife is motivated by her love for her husband.

Despite these motivations, the cards confirm that the man is unable to break free from the affair with the querent. The simple answer is: no, he has not lost interest in her.

Oddly, the news lifts the querent’s mood considerably.

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Horoscope Spread: The Perfect Match?

The Cartomancy Horoscope Spread is perfect for exploring complex situations that require addressing multiple related questions. I find this spread to be particularly useful for business inquiries which may include several elements that must be evaluated. For example the spread works well for exploring all of the details involved in purchasing or selling a home.

Is He the Perfect Roommate?

I drew the following cards for my brother when he was debating over the idea of taking a roommate. He needed insight into the pros and cons of sharing his home with an acquaintance he did not know well. My brother was living alone in a three-bedroom townhouse. He knew that taking a housemate made financial sense, but he wanted to be sure that the man would be a suitable roommate.  Because this is a complex topic with several aspects to consider, I chose the Horoscope Spread to address the various concerns.

Area of focus: Would this friend be a suitable roommate?

I asked my brother to shuffle the cards while concentrating on his area of focus for the reading. Then I dealt 12 cards from the top of the shuffled deck, and laid them into the 12 houses of the astrological wheel as illustrated in the following diagram:

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Areas of Inquiry

My aim was to do the intuitive equivalent of a background check on the prospective roommate. I needed to explore the following questions in order to make a determination about his suitability as a roommate, and assess the future success of the living arrangement.

  • Does the roommate have a stable source of income?
  • How does the roommate handle his money?
  • Is the roommate emotionally stable?
  • Does the roommate have good communication skills?
  • Does the roommate keep his living quarters neat and clean?
  • Does the roommate have a wild social life?
  • Is the roommate’s life philosophy compatible?
Relevant Houses for the Questions

1st House: represents the querent himself, his attitude, and motivations.
4th House: represents the querent’s townhouse
4th House (roommate’s 10th House): represents the roommate’s career
7th House: represents the roommate himself, his attitude and motivations.
8th House: (roommate’s 2nd House) the roommate’s finances
9th House: the querent’s philosophy on life
9th House (roommate’s 3rd House): how the roommate communicates
10th House (roommates 4th House): the roommates lifestyle in the home
12th House (roommates’s 6th House): the roommate’s work ethic

Each house of the horoscope encompasses a wide range of possible meanings. For this reading I focus only on the meanings that apply directly to the area of focus for our inquiry.

Relevant Cards and Keywords

8 of Diamonds: careful planning, caution with money
8 of Hearts: sharing and cooperation, optimism
4 of Hearts: partnership, union, comfort and security
7 of Clubs: hard work, steady actions, evaluations
10 of Spades: fear, worry, ambition, heavy responsibility
Queen of Spades: authoritative, detached, conscientious
Jack of Spades: watchful, reserved, emotionally awkward
9 of Clubs: travel, good luck, distance, expansion
7 of Spades: stagnation, routines, frustration, unable to move forward

Interpreting the Cartomancy Horoscope

First I looked at the attitudes and motivations of both the querent and the prospective roommate. What is the querent looking for in a roommate? Is the roommate a suitable house companion? Or does the roommate lead a double life as an ax murderer?

The 1st House (House of the Self) represents the querent and his personality. It describes his attitude and motivations in reference to the question. The 1st house also sets the tone of the reading. The 8 of Diamonds describes my brother as cautious and deliberate. He intends to carefully evaluate all of the pros and cons of accepting the roommate.

The 4th House (House of the Home) represents the querent’s townhouse. The 4 of Hearts is the card of partnerships, and confirms that the cards are in tune with the question of bringing a roommate into the home. The 4 of Hearts also shows that my brother loves his home. It is a place of comfort and security.

The 7th House (House of the Partner) represents the roommate and serves as the roommate’s 1st house. It describes the roommate’s attitude and motivations in reference to the question. The 8 of Hearts describes the roommate as companionable and cooperative. He is honest, and open-minded and willing to compromise. He is motivated by a willingness to share.

The 8 of Diamonds suggests that for my brother, the decision to take a roommate is a very serious matter. He is motivated by the prospect of reducing his monthly expenses with the supplemental income from the roommate. But he wants to be sure that taking on a roommate will not upset the harmony and tranquility of his personal space.  The 8 of Hearts suggests that the prospective roommate is friendly and trustworthy. In terms of his personality, attitude and motivations, he seems to be a perfect match.

Then I wanted to take a look at the roommate’s finances to determine if he spends his money wisely, and if he will have enough to cover the expenses each month.

The 8th House is the Roommate’s 2nd House of finances. The 7 of Clubs indicates a steady income. The roommate works hard for his money, and he is careful with his spending.

The 4th House is the roommate’s 10th House of career. The 4 of Hearts shows that the roommate loves his work. He feels comfortable and secure in his job. We could even say that he’s married to his work.

The 12th House is the roommate’s 6th House of service, which can tell us something about his work ethic, and his attitude toward work in general. The 10 of Spades indicates high ambitions. He takes his work very seriously and worries about meeting his responsibilities.

The cards indicate that the roommate is conscientious about his work and about his spending. He should have no trouble covering his monthly expenses.

Next I needed to evaluate the roommate’s lifestyle at home, and assess how he maintains his living quarters. Is he a slob? Will he be negligent with the furnishings and fixtures?  I also wanted to look at the kinds of people he may potentially entertain in the townhouse.

The 10th House is the roommate’s 4th House of house and home. The Queen of Spades is meticulous about her appearance and surroundings. She is authoritative, and not afraid to take responsibility. She is detached and private.

The 5th House is the roommate’s 11th House of friendships and social activities. The Jack of Spades is watchful and reserved. He can be jealous and spiteful when provoked.

The Spades can be negative influences, but their significance must be weighed against the 8 of Hearts which describes the roommate’s basic demeanor. The Queen of Spades indicates that the roommate will be respectful of the townhouse and of my brother’s property. The roommate will clean up after himself, and accept any chores or responsibilities required of him. He will keep to himself, and not infringe on my brother’s personal space.  The Queen of Spades further suggests to me that the roommate is not going to bring women into the house. The Jack of Spades suggests that the roommate may experience social anxiety, and probably has a few close friends. He isn’t likely to host wild parties in the townhouse.

Finally, I needed to evaluate whether the roommate and my brother will get along together. There are two houses I can look at to help me determine compatibility. First, good communication is crucial in any relationship. Next I can evaluate each person’s basic life philosophy to see if they share a common ground.

The 3rd House shows how the querent communicates his ideas to others. The 9 of Clubs indicates that my brother is an expansive communicator. He enjoys participating in conversations on a wide-ranging topics. He is straightforward, and he is not afraid to speak his mind.

The 9th House is the roommate’s 3rd house of communication. The 7 of Spades warns that the roommate is more reserved. He holds back his thoughts and opinions, which may cause resentments to brew under the surface. He is easily frustrated in his communications, and isn’t always willing or able to hear the other person’s point of view.

The 9th House represents the querent’s philosophy of life. The 7 of Spades suggests that my brother espouses traditional values. He is set in his ways. He follows established routines, and does not accept change easily.  He is slow to take action, and he avoids making rash decisions.

The 3rd House is the roommate’s 9th House. The 9 of Clubs suggests that the roommate is more broad minded. He enjoys culture and travel and learning new things. He is impulsive and spontaneous. He is not afraid to dive head first into unfamiliar territory, and explore all that life has to offer.

It struck me that the opposing perspectives on life, and the contrasting skills with communication, could result in the two men having a beneficial influence on each other. The prospective roommate could inspire my brother to rise above his limitations, and more readily embrace spontaneity and change. My brother might help the roommate learn to communicate more freely, and to better manage his social awkwardness.

I advised my brother that the prospective roommate would be a wonderful fit. He is honest and dependable, and will respect my brother’s property and personal boundaries– the perfect match for a roommate.

After weighing all of the information, my brother decided to move forward with taking on the roommate. They have been living together for several months, and both are pleased with the arrangement.